Fraser Trevor Author & Social Psychologist MSc

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True contact with the child within brings tremendous ingenuity to the task of studying our recovery. When empathy and trust are gained we lose the fear of failure. The child within is not inhibited by what others might think. We just plunges in head first, attacking the problems with all the resources that we have. Just one of the many places where a child's ingenuity is evident is in the associations is made between objects, signs and words. Many of these associations are ob<span class="text_exposed_show" style="display: inline;">viously wrong (to us as adults), but the child within does not know they are wrong and does not care as they have been used as a tested coping strategy over a long period of time.</span></div>
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The child because of its experiences sees the world through different eyes, and orders it in different ways.The perspective of the child is fundamentally different and its actions correspondingly so. Who can say that our ordering of the world is any more logical than a child's? For a child, why should the concept of safety be any better than the word love? why should the word recovery be any better than the word abuse? When we see adult concepts, of safety, love and empathy leaving us, so why not describe in the terms of a kinder garden or a school playground (where the Childs intuition can come out to play coming into renewed contact means applying an application of ingenuity)?</div>
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The child withins ability to use behaviour in this way is not at all exceptional, as any child within given the right circumstance will testify. But because this intuitional ingenuity is common among children, it is no less wonderful, and no less important in helping them to study the course of the ten stages.</div>
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True contact with the child within brings tremendous ingenuity to the task of studying our recovery.

True contact with the child within brings tremendous ingenuity to the task of studying our recovery. When empathy and trust are gained w...

True contact with the child within brings tremendous ingenuity to the task of studying our recovery.

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